A Different Perspective on The Secret
I guess if you are interested in self development and improving yourself you have heard of The Secret? Maybe you have read the book or seen the movie. I know a few people who have said to me – “Rich I read the book but it´s not working for me”. And yes I agree with them. However that does not mean that the book does not have value. Sometimes people read the book and don´t really understand what they have to do with the information provided.
Why The Secret works for some people and not others:
I bet you know people or have heard of people who seem to always be winning. Be it with a promotion in work, a job change, or financially. They just always seem to have “luck”. It seems like The Secret is working for them automatically.
So what´s the reason? They have a clear focus and have got rid of the mental garbage in their head. They take action. To me this is the key, actually taking action. These “lucky” people will visualise what they want, ask the universe for it and then take action and receive it.
Why The Secret does not work for the rest of the population:
If you´re reading this maybe it is because you don´t fall into the category above or you don´t seem to have automatic success like other more “lucky” people. So let´s look at how you can change that.
Let´s take an example that many people experience – losing weight! You know you would look better if you lost X kilos or stones. You know that during the summer you will have your beach body and feel better!
Then you think of having to “diet” to go without food, to exercise, and you get a feeling of dread a feeling of oh no it´s too much effort!
I know that happened to me before. I thought I won´t be able to do this, it will be too much work etc, but you know what – success breeds success. When you see the changes taking place you will feel better and this will spur you on
You have to be 100% fully committed to what you want. You can´t say i´d like to lose weight or I should lose weight or maybe I might use weight. You have to want to lose weight and understand why you are doing it. Then your mind will become 100% focused and you will be in a better frame of mind to achieve your goal!
The first thing you need to do is ensure you want to achieve your goal, and remove any limiting or negative belief. If you want to succeed for example online, ask yourself why do you want this? What is the most important element? Forget about the money, what else is there that is so important? For me it´s to have more time with my little girl, to be able to visit her when I want, to travel more, to be able to say to my wonderful partner, forget about your job let´s enjoy life! I keep this in the forefront of my mind constantly.
A key tool you can use is visualization. Did you know that your mind can not tell the difference between a real memory and one that is vividly created in your mind? So the first thing you need to do is to visualize your successful outcome. See yourself looking better, feeling better, enjoying your new lifestyle. Really believe it and feel like you have it. This will plant the idea in your subconscious and help you achieve your goal.
Once you can do this you are ready to use the power of The Secret
Making The Secret work for you to achieve what you want
Here´s something interesting. It´s called the blue feather manifestation. The idea is simple you put the idea out to the universe that you want to bring a blue feather into your life and within a specified time frame you will see the blue feather.
I find this and other variations of this exercise interesting as you have set it into your mind that you will see a blue feather, so your subconscious is now aware of this and begins to seek it out, without you even realizing.
Do you ever remember seeing a make and model of car, and then suddenly you see it ever where? It seems that every one is driving this type of car. Again your subconscious is seeking out this information and identifying it for you.
So is there any “scientific” back up to this. Well actually yes. It´s something called your reticular activating system working as it should. You see, every day we are exposed to so many stimuli that we can´t possibly take everything in. Your reticular activating system makes a decision as to what is important enough to bring to your attention and what can be “discarded”.
When you focus on something the RAS shows you more of it, it seeks it out. So what you put into your head is what you get more off – take note of this point. Your subconscious is not going to differ between “good” and “bad” thoughts, it simply gives you more of what you look for.
So you see what you want is already there you just have to switch it on and see and seek out what every it is. If you focus on the negative you will receive more negative.
What you should be taking away from The Secret is the following.
It is telling you that when you put an idea into your head you be able to spot opportunities, to help you achieve that goal. If you visualize the goal that you want to achieve and really believe you can and take action you will see amazing change.
If you don´t take action you won´t get closer to your goal. My three key steps are:
- Focus your mind
- Visualise
- Take action.
Oh by the way, a good friend of mine has a great book that goes further into the idea of getting your mind, or headpaint as he calls it in order. Here´s his “headpaint” book. It´s a great read and can really help you focus