Finding Your True Self
Many people don’t realise what it means to find your true self. Your true self is that thing that is always constant. It is more than your body, your emotions, or your experiences. In fact it is your very essence of being.
If I asked you the question “who are you?” What would you answer? I am Richard, I am a dad, I am a trainer, I am Irish?
The answers that were given above are what you do, what your role is, where you are from, but it tells me nothing about you as a person. You may have experienced many different things, but what is the essence of You?.
Thus there is something about you that is always constant, however, it can be difficult to accurately describe what that is.
Let me ask you again “who are you?”
One thing I do know: if and when you live a life where you are being true to yourself, you will find great happiness. When you feel a bit off, a bit bleh, this could be a sign that you are not truly living in an authentic manner and living your true purpose. If your true self is not honoured, it does not matter how much fame, fortune or success you achieve, it will always feel as if you are lacking something.
Here are my top tips for discovering your true self and to start to reveal your true path in life:
1. How introverted or extroverted are you? When you are with people do you feel energised? Do you feel more comfortable when you are in your own company? In which situations are you at your best?
● If you are an extrovert you will find that sitting in an office starting at a computer all day may be horrendous!.
● If you are introverted then a sales job or a job where you have to talk to people all day might be your idea of hell.
2. When you were younger with did you like doing that you still like to do today? Perhaps it was riding your bike, watching cartoons, eating burgers or afternoon naps. But hold on a second, lets dig a bit deeper. Maybe you always sought out adventure, or you were always creative and liked to help others. Think about the qualities and characteristics that you still have even though you are older (well maybe not the hamburger eating!).
3. Let’s say for a moment that you can achieve anything in the world, what would it be? Would it really be being a millionaire (if so why?) Maybe it’s writing a best selling novel – yes you need to think big here. What is, in your opinion, the greatest thing a person (you) can have and can achieve?
4. If you could teach your younger self a number of important lessons what would it be? What do you know now that could have made your life more meaningful?
5. Let’s say you want to be a millionaire – how would that make you happy. After buying the car, they yacht the house etc, would you feel fulfilled? Believe it or not many people believe it would but when it happens they go off the rails as they still find something is missing.
6. Who do you look up to?. If it’s a millionaire, a CEO of a company, ask yourself what it is about them that you admire the most? How can you be more like them?
7. Think about who you are right now. It is easy to think about who we would like to be, want to be, should be, but what about the person you are now? Do a skills audit and see what you are good at, how you can improve and how you can grow. You might want to be a famous singer, but right now you can’t hold a tune. That’s not to say that you can’t change but make sure you don’t set yourself up for disappointment. There are limits to what we can do – but we can always improve!.
● Live your life to the limit but realise that you also have limits !.
● By doing the skills a audit you will find out your strengths and weaknesses, what you like and dislike – it’s ok to know these things!
I do believe you can reinvent yourself but it must always be by being guided by your true self. When you discover who you are, what you are good at, and accept it, then you can begin to move on and become better.
When you discover your true self you can make that true self be spectacular. Your mission (if you choose to accept it) is to ind out who you are and what your true path is. Play to your strengths and your interests. Don’t get fixated on your weaknesses and what does not interest you. By honouring yourself you will have a truly spectacular life.
If you are interested in truly finding out who you are are I have created a course specifically about this topic. Find out more about The Search For Self.